Red Region Inferno

So we decided to check out a place we had never been before and had this great idea to not tell any of our friends we were going. I even watched the RSVP lists for the party on SwingLifeStyle and Lifestyle Lounge to kinda make sure that a clump of friends weren’t attending.
Our idea was that a new place and new people would be fun. We would avoid the cliques and just be random. Meet new people, chat it up, sex it up… Oh ya.
Usually the RSVP lists show about a third of the attendees for such parties in the Seattle area so we guessed we would know just enough people for introductions.
So wrong.

Travel time to the place was 2 hours.

We walked into the venue and were surprised at the set up and size of the place. Small is how it was described, but it was smaller than we imagined.
The host (a very nice guy we have seen around, but don’t know) told us about the play area/dance area that was located a short walk up a hill in a separate location. The upper area opened 2 hours later than the lower area, so everyone congregates in the first building before that.

We got some wine (they had a small bar) and looked around. WE new not a single soul. Seeing an open spot on a couch we approached the attractive woman sitting there and introduced ourselves. Her husband showed a few minutes later and we all talked for a bit. They seemed nice and it turned out we had mutual friends, but after about 20 minutes this cute redheaded girl shows up who they know and the husband literally turns his back on us to talk with her. Maybe 10 minutes later the woman we are chatting with gets pulled into the conversation with the redhead by her husband.
We have been shut down!
Strike one.

A woman then approaches us and asks to sit down. I scoot over and we chat with her a bit. Her partner arrives and though he is nice enough he is a no go. We are polite, but try to avoid sexual innuendos or anything that could be construed as flirting.

Then we see a couple who had previously contacted us via email on LL about meeting.
It was just that week and it was obvious they recognized us because they kept looking towards us, but never approached.

The upper room then opened and we went to see what it was like.
The upper area had a couple small play spaces and a dance floor surrounded by various forms of seating. It would be a great place for a private invite party, but for a mixer it had the problem of not being conducive to play unless you are big on exhibitionism. The lower play are is open to the dance floor and bright as heck so I would have felt I was the show for all if playing there. The upper play area is dark, but you can’t see what is happening in the area just by peeking. You pretty much have to enter the area and then leave when you discover it isn’t your scene.

We approached the couple who we had earlier that week had some email correspondence and introduced ourselves. It turned out it had been the female half writing. The male half seemed surprised but happy. We all hit it off pretty well at first, and there was definite chemistry between the guy and my wife, but the girl was a bit of an enigma. She seemed into it, but still a bit stand-off-ish. Eventually we went for more wine and then some dancing. My wife made some flirtatious attempts with the guy on the dance floor, the girl kind put a stop to it by directing him away and through body language.
Usually I would have thought my wife scared them away because they happened to be soft-swap primarily and my wife can seem a bit over sexual to some tamer sorts, but she had been very mellow that night. I assumed the girl just wasn’t into one of us.
Strike two!

The place was very hot so we went outside for some air. There was a bunch of people out their around a fire.
I’d guess 15 people sitting and another 10 or so standing around. There was seating for around 20ish (depending on how close you wish to be) so we joined the group of people chilling around the fire. It was nice and conversation flowed.

Once again we started a conversation with a nice couple that seemed a possible match. They had been out there a while and therefore wished to enter the venue and dance some more before we did. It was the male who said it and I think my wife took it personal.
They didn’t invite… and we saw them actually leave 10 or so minutes later.
Strike three!
Official Swinger Fail!

My wife said “We have been shunned.”
It felt that way. It had been a long time since we had hit up a new venue without knowing people. Even people with whom you never play with that are friends make a big difference. They usually know people and introduce you to others. Introductions go a long way in the lifestyle at parties.

So… shunned and not feeling our usual sought after selves we decided to have a good time on the dance floor at least. We did, but the place was so hot we kept having to return outside. A few couples and singles flirted with us, but none we where into. (Maybe we made them feel shunned)

Eventually it was nearing time to leave as we had to catch a ferry.
While my wife enjoyed finishing off her last glass of wine we saw a couple leaving and my wife complimented the guys shirt. We ended up talking with them for a while. It was funny because I had noticed the girl earlier, but said nothing because the guy didn’t look like someone my wife would be into. Later I found out she had noticed him, but felt the same about my tastes and the women. (crazy – she was the hottest girl in the place)
Not that any of that made a difference. We had to split and do our 2 hour drive home.

The whole way home we made jokes about being shunned.
I said my favorite swing fail line at least half a dozen times…
“I shaved my balls for this?”

My wife kept making jokes about not even getting her pussy licked.

My ball shaving jokes aside… I only shave them smooth just before dates or when going to a club. I use disposable razors and use a new one each time. It is so environmentally unfriendly I know, but my fave razor for ball shaving only comes in a disposable version. Well, actually they have one with changeable blades, but it doesn’t work the same.

Inspired by a weird email and two NOT NICE comments that I sent to the trash bin in response to my Chocolate Pussy & Taboo Words post from last week I have decided to talk about the other side of the the coin when it comes to interracial sex and swinging.
Yes… the BBC fetish.
If your not into swinging or maybe the hot wife thing then you may not know what BBC stands for.
Big Black Cock.
Check my lifestyle dictionary and you will also find “BBC LOVER” – A woman who specifically seeks out black men with large cocks for sex.
Besides the women who for some reason or another prefer a well hung black man over any other sort there is a large amount of men who enjoy seeing there wife with such a man above all others.
This preference can be to the point of ONLY playing with hung black males.

Single males have tough time getting involved with the swinging world.
They are a dime a dozen, and couples can pick and choose.
Just do a search in a localized area for single men on AdultFriendFinder -aka- AFF and then do one for couples seeking single men to see the ratio.
It ain’t easy without a partner.
If your black though… or better yet, black and hung like a horse… You are in.
A black single male is as sought after as a unicorn. (see dictionary)
The only single black males who have trouble finding play partners are those who simply have ZERO manners, or ZERO game.
We run into these guys on the net regularly.
They usually send one liner emails to my wife that read something like this…
“Hey baby, want to cam?”
or “You look fine!”
The inventive ones say shit like “Your ass makes my mouth water.”
That is it. No introduction, no small talk, just dumb one liner statements. Then they send more on different days.
The really stupid ones will become angry for not getting a response and finally write a real email, but in a complaining manner that they have been ignored. *sigh*
They should read our swingers advice blog maybe.
The other failure type is the guy who tries to hard to be nice and polite.
They seem to think repeatedly telling a woman how much they respect women and swingers in general is they way to get them interested.
News Flash (for men of all races) Swinging sites are about sex. It is alright to let a woman know you are interested in actually having sex. That is what they are there for.
Read profiles, see what the woman/couple is like, address them as a couple, tell a bit about yourself, ask a question or two. It is that simple.

So… back to the BBC
What causes this desire for black males is different for many people, but the fact that it exists is not something to debate.

My wife and I are not racially motivated in general. We see it all the time though, and I personally get cravings for different races sometimes.
They are specific too. Japanese or Chinese rather than just Asian. Not sure that is exactly a race thing though because I do the same thing with tall girls or short, blondes, brunettes, green eyes vs blue, freckles and red hair, super skinny or pleasantly plump. I think I am just a lover of sensual variety.
Contrast can be sexy.
I sometimes just want the visual.
Sometimes I would like to be a voyeur and watch my wife with a black male rather than a white male just for that contrast.
It is a sexy thing. I enjoy it. I am more apt to break out a camera if it is a black guy instead of a white guy.
Why? No clue. I just want the pictures more. It is more of a turn-on.

She does not share the visual fetish.
If she watches me with a black woman, Hispanic woman, white woman, whatever… It is all the same to her.
She gets off on seeing us have great sex. She gets bored if it is blah/average sex. Red head vs brunette makes no difference to her.

I however am a visual artist. Maybe that is the difference.

My personal tastes, and the NOT NICE comments I received made me ask a few friends (who are in the lifestyle) about their personal tastes and viewpoints on the subject.
3 Caucasian women asked = 1 woman loves BBC (or just any black cock) above all else, and says it makes her feel extra slutty. 1 woman says she isn’t racists, but doesn’t like the looks of a black penis so she wont have sex with a black man. 1 woman says she has no preference at all.
1 Hispanic woman asked = She avoids black males because she finds them rude in bed. Besides that reason she wouldn’t care, and once didn’t care.
4 Caucasian males asked = 2 men are both really into watching their wives with black men. One is for the same reasons I have (just novelty and contrast) but to an extreme level. The other man says it makes his wife seem more of a slut to him, and that turns him on.
1 man said he would have no preference he thinks, but it has never come up.
1 Man said no way ever, and really wouldn’t give a reason no matter how much I picked at him.
I eventually gave up because I started to piss him off.

Of those answers I found the “more of a slut” response the most interesting.
Yes I inquired as to how a black cock made it more slutty than a white cock, but no coherent answer was really given by either of the people who said it was more slutty.
It just made me more confused.

Eventually I am going to delve into this topic deeper, but I need to contemplate how first.
It is a touchy subject and one that must be dealt with in person. I can’t do it with a poll online, or through emails with strangers because it is a fetish. I have tried that before on other fetish subjects and all I got was stupid bullshit from fake weirdos who wanted to be instead of actually were into the subject.

Today because I am thinking about it I have a black girl desire. (it is usually just a booty desire and black girls often have very nice bottoms)
Tomorrow I will have some other sort of desire. Probably some polar opposite like a green eyed, freckled girl with milky white skin.

If I offended anyone with this post, please feel free to comment and I will delete it.
No N words were used in the writing of this post.
Thank you… have a nice day!

Note: This is a Re-Post from March 17, 2010
I have re-posted it simply because it was a popular post.

O.k.
I told you I would tell the story of last weekend… and here it is.

We arrived in Seattle about 8:pm at our hotel.
It was the Best Western Executive about 2 blocks from the science center. We could see the Experience Music Project from the hotel.
That’s a good thing because I always need landmarks (I get lost)

Let me tell you my take on the hotel…
Crap!
I have stayed at different Best Westerns over a hundred times in my life. Some are awesome, some not so much and some just suck.
That particular Best western  is now on the ‘sucks list’.

Our friends picked us up at the hotel after we got dressed and we headed to dinner.
(We had met them at a swingers meet and greet – bar take over a few weeks before and had kept in contact via texts and emails on AFF and LL)
Dinner and drinks at the palace Kitchen.

The Palace Kitchen is a pretty cool place for meeting up with swinger couples.
It is busy and loud enough that people can’t/don’t listen in on your conversation.
The lights are kept low, and it has a very comfortable atmosphere.
The drinks are good, and so was the food (though the selection isn’t large)

My only complaint was that the wait staff kinda sucked at their jobs.
That of course could have just been my bad luck and I happened to get  shitty waiters or they were having a very bad day.

Our friends = He was a huge flirt and just couldn’t keep himself from my wife.
She dressed in  lingerie  that looked like a dress along with some very sexy shoes.
Conversation was fun, sexual, flirty, and well… (lets just say that they are knowledgeable folks who know how to socialize well)
We all chatted it up until we realized it was close to 1:am and that each passing minute would cut into our play time…

Back to the hotel.

Once there… (I love making up names for the couples- hmm… I’m going to call them Mick and Shiela)

Mick and I began lighting candles… it took us maybe 1 minute total to light about 15 candles, get the lights turned off and kick our shoes off.
Shiela and I started making out standing at the foot of the bed and my wife and Mick got on the bed and started messing around.
This couple was very sensual and it took close to 20 minutes of feeling each other up and kissing all over before I ended up with my pants off and Shiela got onto her knees.
Blowjob skills? Oh my… did she have them!
Cloud 9 for sure.
She took me to the edge and I had to step back.
I began pleasuring her with my hands and I brought her to her first ‘O’ in about 3 minutes flat.
(Foreplay gets them there guys- don’t skip the for-play)
I then went down on her and got her to her second ‘O’ within another couple minutes.

I should mention here that she was a squirter and that this was my first time with a girl who squirts.
It was kinda odd and I still haven’t made up my mind on it yet.

It was at this point when my lovely wife finally got to taking down Mick’s pants and showing him how skillful she is with her mouth.
Shiela went back to working mine in the same manner and eventually we ended up crowding each other on the bed.
I started playing with my wife and she started playing with Shiela… and it was a carress for all.
Shiela and Mick went down on my wife together while I went back and forth from kissing my wife to playing with Shiela’s naughty bits.

It all proved to much for me and I wipped out a condom and got behind Shiela as she pleasured my wife.
Shiela has a smoking hot super athletic body.
Looking at it while I was behind her was wonderful to say the least.
She was very enthusiastic and we found a rhythm pretty quickly that let her push back very hard against me with a crazy circular grind.
‘O’ number 3 for her and I had to pull away and remove the condom for some more oral.
Yummmy… she was good.
I decided to re-glove and go back to what I was doing before.
She stood up and I leaned her over the bed.
I was now treated to my very own real life porn show as I got to watch my sweet wife in a 69 right in front of me while I was doing Shiela.
Talk about hot!
I went off… big! and that brought Shiela to ‘O’ number 4, and seeing and hearing us brought my wife to ‘O’ number 1.
Sexy fun.

We then all messed around naked for a few minutes and I decided I needed even more… and luckily so did my wand. Sometimes when I am tired and it is late all I get is one.

Shiela and I went at it from various angles as I watched Mick and my wife start to get busy.
She can ride!

‘O’ number 5 for Shiela. (I was kinda jealous of her orgasms at this point because they got bigger and bigger each time)
Then came ‘O’ number six right away and I was amazed!
Every muscle in her athletic body went rigid. It was huge… head tilted back, crazy sounds, fists clenching and toes curling… Crazy!
That of course ment… pull away or lose it. LOL

We all went to pleasuring my wife.
3 on 1 is something all women should experience at least once.
My lovely just adores being the center of such attention.
‘O’ 2 or 3 for her… (honestly I had not been counting)
Which made me decide to put on a condom and go for number 2 myself. (Shiela had a couple more at this point!!!!)

That must have been a signal because Mick bent my wife over and went hard and fast until he let his passions boil over… ah the smile on my wife’s face

We pretty much just colapsed on the bed at that point.
I was just comfy stroking Shiela’s body and Mick was stroking my wife’s.
We chatted for a while… just chilling.
It was past 5:am.
We had been doing the wild thing for close to 4 hours straight.

If all play couples were like them we would never need to go to the gym.
Endless energy and enthusiasm.
Very comfortable and sexy. Perfectly awesome swingers.
The lifestyle holds all sorts, but the comfortable, sensual, energetic sorts are the best.

So… that was that.

In the morning we ate waffles then we went to Pike Place for those little donuts and on to Starbucks for coffee.

The picture below is of me playing like lava is getting me.
It was taken on the Seattle – Winslow ferry in front of some advertisement.
Not sure if it was taken on the way there or on the way back (because my memory is shot) … but it is very fitting for a blog called the “Red Region Inferno”.
Kinda a ‘me’ dancing in the Inferno type thing.

My wife hates that shirt. I am rarely allowed to put it on when going in public.
She actually hates me in anything red.
Always makes me buy blue or green shirts.
I happen to like red.
What do ya all think?
Is the shirt really that bad?

NOTE: This is a Re-Post from 2009. I decided to re-publish it because it was well read, and many people seemed to like it at the time. If you wonder about the couple mentioned in the post… I actually don’t recall who it was about, so can’t say how it all panned out.

We have been talking with a few couples online lately that are virgins to the couples sex experience.
You can usually tell a virgin couple from the things they say before you even ask if they have ever played before.
One of the subjects that almost all of them hit is the jealousy and security department.
They make a big speech on how hey have no jealousy issues.
They tell us how they “are o.k.” with it.
We usually ask right away at this point… “So, Have you ever played before?”
They tell us “NO, but we….” (Blah, blah, blah) about how they are so secure.
The more they talk about it the more leery we get.
It starts to sound like they are trying to reassure themselves.
We get spooked.

When we first started seriously looking for couples we never understood why many people avoided the newbies.
We didn’t get it at all.

It has been less than a year into the world of swinging and we have become nervous of the newbie.

We have not personally had any real bad experiences with the virgin couples.
Lot’s of horror stories from our friends experiences, but non ourselves.

So far, all we have had for bad experiences with newbies is a no show situation (because they got scared) and then they lied up a storm about why they didn’t show so we would give them another chance, and then a couple that quit swinging because it was to much for them after giving it a try.

That one actually bugs me a bit because it is our intention to never be anything except a wonderful experience to anybody.
The couple did have a good time individually, but had issues with how far it went (They didn’t honestly tell us their boundaries) so had jealous/possession issues with each-other afterwards.

(swinging is not for everybody)

I really don’t like drama.
I especially don’t like drama mixed with sex and emotions.
Jealousy makes me nervous.
Jealousy can turn into ugly and even dangerous fights between people very quickly.

We never want to see people cry, freak out, break up, fight, etc… over anything to do with us.
Especially because they had sex with us.

We have joined the ranks of the experienced swingers who are afraid to play with the wanna-be swingers.

So… We met one of these couples for dinner this week.
They are a pretty sexy couple.
They have a a semi relaxed attitude for lifestyle virgins.
They have been toying with the idea for 2 years and have each went out separately and played with somebody else one time and said they had no problem with it.

Would they have a problem if they saw it?
What will they think if their partner gets off super fast? Or in a huge way?
What if we do things with their partner that they don’t do?
Sex is very fluid… each encounter is different.
People act different with different people.
Will they both be o.k. with that?
They say they will.

When we started swinging we asked ourselves these questions.
We asked each other these questions.
“Will this be o.k.?”
“Do we want to do this?”

Now we have stopped wondering what is o.k. for us and we wonder what is o.k. for them.
Now we are nervous for them.

We don’t want to be one of those couples that instantly say no to virgins, but we also don’t want any drama.

Ah… how the lifestyle makes one question oneself.

So I went and changed our profiles on the three sites we use for meeting other swingers to say that we are “on a break from meeting new people.”

It was about photo switching time and I almost did it just because of habit, but realized it was kinda stupid to do so if we are on a break.

I purused some profiles though and it got me thinking about how bad some profile photos are and what kind of thinking process must have been employed to end up posting such stupid / bad images for the main pics.

I also got to thinking about how different the sites we use are when it comes to people and their photos.

The biggest site we use if you are going by active memberships is Adult Friend Finder.
This site is probably the most well known of all the adult dating sites and also the most heavily advertised.
Because of that it is full of flakes, fakes, and douchebags.
Even so… because it is so large and so popular it is one of the best places to meet other swingers online.
It is the best site to meet newer couples and hardcore swingers alike.
The newer couples are on Adult Friend Finder   because it is the site they found first, and the more active regular players are on it because it is huge and easy to meet people on a regular basis.
The photos people post on this site however just confuse the heck out of me.
What is up with people posting 50 shots of their genitals?
What the heck do they think that will get them?
Or people using out of date bad camera phone pictures with their heads blocked out by stupid scribbles or blobs?
Do these people think that is attractive?
I understand the need for discretion… but how can people be to lazy to take a nice photo for their profile and then expect that people will want to have sex with them?
If you are to lazy to upload a nice photo you are probably to lazy to brush your teeth, shave, wash, and plan for a great evening too.
Adult Friend Finder  may be big, and it may be one of the most easy to meet people who swing type sites on the net… but it isn’t the place to go if you want to see a lot of nice photos.

Looking around SwingLifestyle.com I get a whole different sort of pictures to see.
Very rarely am I bombarded with nothing except genitals.
That’s good… one genital shot is enough thank you very much.
SwingLifestyle.com Does have the blocked faces with big blob pictures problem however.
Seems like the majority of the pictures are random bad shots or quickly executed poses in bad lighting made specifically with the purpose of blocking out the faces to annoy me.
If you do have the need to block faces… take some fucking time and do it nicely.

The crowd on SwingLifestyle.com differs a bit from Adult Friend Finder in that you will not find as many looky lou types and scammers.
You will also not find as many newbies, but it is still a great site for meeting newer couples if that is your thing.
The majority of the seriously active couples on SwingLifestyle.com are lifetime membership couples because they offer a very good deal for lifetime membership.
The site has an outdated feel to it and if it wasn’t for the large amount of lifetime members would certainly need re-done to keep competitive on the web today.
Since couples seeking other couples are more interested in people to choose from than fancy web design SwingLifestyle.com cruises along very well even without all the fancy bells and whistles.

For those who have to have a fancy looking site however… LifeStyle Lounge  is a very purdy site.
More importantly (and to stay on subject) is that LifeStyle Lounge  is the only site of it’s type I have used that doesn’t seem loaded with all the crude, nasty, icky pictures that I see on other sites.
One reason is that they don’t allow explicit photos or genitals to be shown on the front photos area. They are very strict about it.
Any photos of those types must be put in private galleries.
LifeStyle Lounge  also isn’t full of all the funny blocked of heads because most people put face pictures in a special section (gold pics) that only people who have been marked as real by other members may see.
LifeStyle Lounge also doesn’t do any advertising to speak of and relies on word of mouth by it’s members. This keeps out the dregs and fakers a bit and because they seem to cater to a more upscale crowd they don’t tend to have as many photo hounds.
The one problem with the ‘upscale’ sales pitch is that a lot of profiles are full of nothing except professional photos.
Professional photos are fine, but I consider it a bit of false advertising too when the profile doesn’t show at least a few snap shots and candid shots.
Soft lights, and soft focus + some photo shop doesn’t represent what a person really looks like.
LifeStyle Lounge  definitely has the crowd that cares most about a good profile and makes sure to have nice photos… but some go overboard.
Give me some real you shots please!

So… That is what we use.
We take our own photos (or they are photos swinger friends have taken) and we show what and who we are.
We do hide our faces on the main pages, but allow real seal , networked, and friends to see the rest of us.

Here are a couple of examples (actually our current front pictures)

Example of one of our main page pictures for our profile.

You got to show the male

As you can see… our pictures show enough to let a couple get an idea if they are interested enough to find out more and do not cross the boundaries of being overly sexual.
Sexy yes (at least to us) but not XXX or nasty.

We always change up the male female main pictures.
Not much worse than a profile that only shows one person in a couple.
Usually it is the female half shown.
What the heck are people thinking?
Most people we know (including us) will not correspond with people who don’t show both halves of the couple.
It is just too spooky. Is the other half really ugly? Are they fakes? Is just one person involved? Dose one person in the couple have such low confidence they are afraid to show themselves? Do they consider their partner property that they can “trade” / “swap” so their own picture isn’t needed?
Or maybe they are actually some kind of freakish Yettie type creature just trying to lure foolish swinger couples to their den.
Hmm…
One never knows.
Show both halves!

I could go on forever that way about the showing just one person thing. So annoying!

Please not that all this stuff I have been babbling about is in relation to main front profile pictures.
The photos used in the extra galleries I really have no opinion about.
If you want to show 500 crotch shots for some reason in your extra galleries go for it.
I have no clue how it will affect your response rate to your profile.

So… The rundown…

Adult Friend Finder – The most pictures and most people. The most crude pictures and xxx.

SwingLifestyle.com- The least pictures. More home-style and real. Not to much xxx in your face, but some.

LifeStyle Lounge - The nicest photos. No xxx in your face.

and that… is my take on that!

Note: This is a Re-Post from March 8, 2010 – We are still GREAT friends with this couple.

This last weekend was a blast.
A couple from the Port Orchard area invited us over for some jacuzzi time.

We accepted because we knew we would have fun no matter what, but were apprehensive of the hot tub situation because neither of us are big on sex in a hot tub.

I had to work all day so we didn’t get headed out of town until after 6pm and didn’t get to their place until close to 8pm. (the live in the Port Orchard area)
Once there we chilled for a bit… had a drink and then headed to the jacuzzi.

(For the sake of this story I will call our hosts Mike and Mary – both fictional names)

We all got in and just lazed about chatting for a while until Mike scooted over to my wife and began sucking on her toes. She had painted her nails red especially for him because he had told her it was his favorite.

Some light fondling and kissing began to take place between them and I decided to work my way over and pursue the same course of action with Mary.
30 seconds later Mary said… “Lets go upstairs”.

We all got out and headed through the house to the bedroom.
No awkward moments happened because we had all played together before… the ice needed no breaking.
Mary and I began making out on the bed while Mike and my wife fondled each-other standing in the middle of the floor.
We all rolled around a bit… until we ended up with both myself and Mike standing while the girls stayed on the bed.
I was treated to the double oral treatment while Mike pleasured my wife with his tongue.
Eventually he stood up and put on a condom before entering my wife from behind.
The view of my sexy darling getting fucked from behind while sucking me always turns me on to no end… so after a few minutes of that I decided I needed to wrap mine up and get involved with Mary in the same way.

We all did the wild thing for about 45 minutes and then headed back down stairs for a couple drinks and… oh my… they made jello shots, lol.

I have been drinking more than I like of late, so i skipped the Jello shots, but my darling partook in them along with another couple drinks.
About 2o minutes later she had a nice buzz on.

Mary (who had also gotten herself a nice buzz) decided it was time to bring my wife upstairs and dress her in sexy outfits…
Mike and I stayed downstairs and chatted about all kinds of random stuff while hearing giggles and exclamations of joy from upstairs.
Just when curiosity had gotten me to the point of considering a trip upstairs to join them we heard them start to come down.

They were both dressed up sexy and my wife had one of Mary’s outfits on that looked so friggn hot it blew me away.

Mary had my wife pose by the fire and started taking pictures.
Mike and i decided we should be in the pictures too… so we joined her and a very fun for all MFM threesome type situation happened with Mary taking pictures the whole time.
It ended with… well… let me just say that my wife’s orgasm left her shaking and covered in sweat.

Oh… worry not.
We didn’t forget Mary.
She became the recipient of 3 people giving her some good sensations.
My darling wife went down on her while her husband helped and played with her breasts… and I kissed and nibbled on her until she could take no more.

Oh the joy!
Done?
Nope… she then decided to return the favor to my wife.
It was a full half hour of girl on girl sexy stuff.

Very visually exciting and the both climaxed in huge waves which turned me on so much I actually found myself ready for more. (that is amazing by the way – usually 2 is my limit)

Lets just call the sex of this evening AMAZING!

The night ended after another hour or so of just chatting and hanging out.

Sadly I had to work in 5 hours and it was gonna take 2 for the drive.
Was I burned out the next day? Nope.
When a night of swingers fun goes that well it just kinda pumps you full of energy.
Great stuff and well worth the sleep deprivation.

Thanks so much for another wonderful time Mike and Mary.
We will certainly return for more.

Swing’n

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•  Just a little side note for all of you want-to-be swinger couples out there in blog land…
  Please don’t use our experiences as an end all example of the swingers lifestyle.
  Swingstyles vary from couple to couple big time.
  We are what we like to call “social swingers”
  In other words… we are very into friendships with our playmates rather than 1 night stands or fast hook-ups.
  The reason I point this out is that our style of swinging is representational of only one segment of the swinging lifestyle.

Note: This is a re-post from February 8, 2010. I have re-posted it here on Red Region Inferno because it was a very popular post for some reason. What that reason is, I have no idea.

My wife is still hung over a bit, but I am recovered from our long, but very fun weekend.
Lets see…
The rundown:
We got up early on Saturday morning after very little sleep the night before and got all our stuff ready for the weekend fun.
After taking care of the sitter situation, some catching up on work, some bills and about a zillion text messages we headed out. (Obviously an exaggeration)

We had a dinner date planned with a couple we had met once before for drinks, but no idea where we were going…. this worried me a bit because I had eaten not one bite all day and I new drinking was going to end up being part of the evening.

We took the Bainbridge – Seattle ferry across and went to check into our hotel.
Our friends (dates) had gotten us a suite nearby the party with a room directly across the hall.

Showered, shaved, and all dressed up in red for the party to come we went across the hall to our friends room and chatted a bit before heading to dinner.

We ended up going to Maximilien. It is a french place in Pike Place Market.
We had good service and the food was great.
I ordered a lamb shank (cooked perfectly) and my wife had the lobster.
I must admit however that I wasn’t into the lobster. I took a taste and it just didn’t taste as fresh as I like. It tasted a bit tanked if you know what I mean… but my wife enjoyed it and the female half of the couple we went with enjoyed hers also.

The desserts were are fabulous, but the portions sucked.
What is it about french restaurants that they never give good portions when it comes to dessert?
I think that in the USA (land of the fat and gluttonous) they really need to up the dessert portions in French restaurants.
Charge more if they must… but don’t make me feel like a pig wanting to order a second dessert!

So… we had spent enough time at the restaurant that it was almost time for The Red Party.
AKA- The Seattle Party Animals  almost valentines day so dress in something sexy and red Chapel Bar takeover.
AKA- Chapel SPA Party or for some “The Party.”
Yep… some people love the Seattle Party Animals events so much they plan their calendars around them.
I admit it is a great group, but for us (as well as most people who attended) it was just “The Red Party.”

nSeattle Party Animals  is basically a pacific northwest based group of people (u-official club) of primarily couples with a few swingles that consider themselves to be in the lifestyle.
Some don’t use the term swingers… some I would call vanilla dreamers.
For some reason a lot of no play type couples show up at the off premise SPA parties. Couples that like to have the girls kissing with other girls, flirting, showing off, then…. bam, they disappear like Cinderella when the party starts to dissolve and people start inviting people to private parties, hotel rooms , homes, etc…

Back to the story ~

We arrived at the Chapel bar about a half hour early.

Our friends/dates know a lot of people, so they introduce us around to some of their friends. Everybody they introduce us too is super cool and nice (Which says a lot about the character of our dates)

We get some drinks, sit down and start chatting.

Before we know it about an hour has passed and people are pouring in like crazy.
We enjoyed the eye candy and comment on the attire.

We expected a lot more people to get into the theme, but they didn’t. A few didn’t even have on red…. Lame!

Some however dressed to the hilt.
Sexy, slinky, shiny, dresses to dazzle…. Yum! A few of the men had shirts that made you go.. “Wow, where did they find that?”
Yep, if you want sexy eye candy… the place to be is at a swingers event.

We caught a few friends coming in the door and chatted them up… made a few plans with some special people and in general really had a great time.

My big complaint about the Chapel is lack of space and the music.

You can’t hear shit in there. Great for vanilla peoples, but people want to mingle a bit more at a lifestyle event. It wasn’t as bad as the last time they had an event at the place (music was so loud couldn’t hear yourself scream) but it was still to loud and the DJ sucked.
Nobody was dancing at all.
We love to dance.
We always dance.
We didn’t dance!
That should say enough as to how terrible the tunes were.
The lack of space thing is another matter. It is just to small a location for such a large group.
On the other hand…. better that, than to small a group for the location.
All in all the people who do these things (host the SPA parties) do an awesome job.
It is super cool they do them and we who swing in the NW are lucky to have them.

Umm… My wife flirted herself silly, we both drank to much, and in general had a great time.. (I know, I said that already, but we did)

We decided to bail about 1:am because we didn’t want to be to tired.

We got back to our hotel and our friends invited us in for a drink… we told them we would like to freshen up a bit, but would be right over.

We did our freshening talked about our excitement and then headed across the hall.

O.k.

Here is the strange part.

The entire night at the party I had hardly said on thing to the girl of the couple and we had rarely even seen each other. Not for any reason except that it was a busy party.. the night went fast… never had a chance.
Zero flirting and here we were.

We all chat a bit (still no flirting) and she excused herself to the restroom… comes back out… throws herself on the bed and says “O.K. Aarron, come and take me!”

I was stunned for a minute, slighty off, and I had a moment of huge anxiety… yep, I need a bit of a warm up.

Didn’t get it.

Had to go in cold.

My wife laughed at me… she new I was was off balance. (She doesn’t have such problems,  plus- she had been flirting all night with the male half of the couple)

It was o.k. though… I survived, she was a sexy gal, and we all had a good time.

In the morning we hit the hotel restaurant for the buffet breakfast.

Good stuff, make your own waffles.

We looked and felt like zombies.

Not drinkers, we shouldn’t drink… we each had just a couple to many.

Oh-well…. we live and learn. (or think we do until the next time)

If you play around in swinger land your gonna meet some strange bedfellows.
(Literally)

We met this particular pair through some friends in the lifestyle.
They seemed very nice and we all found that much needed attraction was in place.
We exchanged numbers and the sexting began.
Eventually a date was set.
dinner and drinks followed by a shared hotel room.
Through texting I had been told and so had my wife that the girl was wild and loved the naughty sex, but couldn’t orgasm during her swinging adventures.
The male half said he had no idea why, but she could only cum with him.

Fast forward to the hotel room:
The lights are dim.
I’m on one bed with my pretty new friend and my wife is on the other with her husband.
The girl and myself decide to take our time.
She is not turning out to be a wild one.
She is more of the sensual & erotic sort of lover.

My wife (always a fast paced aggressive girl) has been fucking my new friends husband for at least 20 minutes by the time this pretty girl decided to slide herself down on me.
She did it slowly while looking in my eyes.
She went all the way down and pushed.
Rather than going up and down she kept herself pushed close and just moved her hips around making sure to never break contact or lose any of the depth.
Her arms went under me as she pulled herself close and she gripped my shoulders.
I could tell what and how she wanted it.
I pushed down with my hand against her lower back and pushed up inside as deep as I could get.
Her head came up and as she looked at me her pupils dilated, becoming huge.
She took a sharp intake of breath, held it and bit her lip.
Her muscles tightened and her fingers dug into my back.
When her breath finally was let out her body relaxed and I could tell she wanted to collapse against me.
Instead she just let up pressure and slowly started going up and down on my cock.
I turned her over and took over with the in and out.
Her body gave off a relaxed and satisfied vibe.
Her smile told of sexy contentment.
My hands explored her.
She got hotter again. Started pulling me in.
gradually she brought us back to that deep grind rather than thrusts.
She pulled me down tight against her and as we rocked together I could feel her body start to tighten up again.
She squeezed me almost like a bear hug.
I heard that sharp intake of breath again.
Her body went rigid.
She said “cum.”
I did.
We came together.
She kissed me and looked at me.
We played around a bit.
We watched our spouses.
My wife was dragging it out. Keeping this girls husband on the edge.
Eventually she went to far and he came.

He then paid attention to us.
Talked to his wife.
Asked her if she was worked up.
Asked her if she wanted him to make her come.
She told him she did.
I watched her suck him hard again.
He took her from behind.
He did it fast and hard.
She moaned loudly.
Her skin did not flush, her eyes did not dilate, her body did not tense, her hands stayed relaxed. … as she said “Oh, I’m cumming!” while bucking against him and making porno movie noises.

After that we all chilled for a while.
Talked sex talk, laughed… He mentioned a few more times how he was the only one who could make his wife cum.

She smiled at me every time he said it.

We had a date the other night with another play couple.

It was one of those just ‘Just Dinner’ type dates.
(This has been a week of that.)
We have had 4 just meet for dinner dates in one week.

We had actually met this couple once before and liked them, but it was a few months ago and we wanted to get to know them better before anything else.

It was a pretty nice evening, and we all got along well.
We talked, laughed, exchanged swinger stories…. and we set a get together (for more) date in the future.

At the end of the night however my wife and the husband of the other couple began sending pictures back and forth via their cell phones.
Not a big deal, but then they began showing myself and the pretty girl sitting across from me  that they were sending sexy pics.
No problem, except the girl across from me turned bright red.
Her husband was sending some VERY naughty pictures of her.

Didn’t know a girl could turn that red so fast.

It was all pretty funny in the end though.
We all laughed about it and when they got home they took a few more pictures and sent them to my wife.

We are looking forward to getting to know these particular dinner dates much better.

We had a date.

My wife spent the entire day getting the house ready, and even bought all new bedding.
We are talking about going all out here.

The reason is because the couple that was coming over are super nice and have done some really cool nice things for us over the months we have known them and we have never actually got around to playing with them.
Hectic schedules and crazy occurrences in life have always stopped us.
The have been trying for a date for months… Finally it is here.

2 hours before they arrive – spotting.
Aunt flow has decided to come over.

We decide to just tell them when they arrive.
They had been coming to dinner anyway and we figured we could just hang out.

On arrival they have with them a bag of toys.
They are excited.
We tell them of the situation and they seemed pretty bummed.
That’s how life goes though sometimes, so we all have dinner and make the best of it with conversation.

Eventually our conversation turned to SLS and profile pictures (that is the site we met them on) and then to swinging in general, sex, and finally toys. (remember the bag they brought)
It becomes a toy show.

A Hitachi magic wand is pulled out.
My wife has never had a Hitachi used on her.
It looks to big and seems to powerful.

The female half of the couple decided to demonstrate.

Into the bedroom we go.

She had a dress on, but no panties so she didn’t need to strip.
After a minute or so of using the Hitachi I decided to strip her anyway for aesthetic purposes.

I also decided to add my hands to the game for her orgasm purposes… It seemd to help.

After 2 amazing orgasms we decided to use it on my wife.
It was a bit to much for her and we switched to a mini version of the wand that got her just right.

For the simple reason that the big one was just sitting there and I had a naked 24 year old horny blond in front of me I decided to turn it back on and see if she would enjoy a 3rd ‘O”.

She was happy to head that direction.

It is funny how swinger couples are so much more open to fun with sex toys than vanilla couples.
It isn’t really sex. It’s just a toy.
Makes me think about how uptight people in the world are.
Humans have way to many hang ups.

So… I brought the girl to her 3rd ‘O’ and my wife had two in a row from the mini wand.

My wife (being the giving person she is) decided to return the favor of an ‘O’ to they guy operating the machinery.

Not one to mess around she un-bottoned his pants and showed off her amazing skills.

I guess the girl who had just had 3 took that as a sign and went to work on me.

I got to the point that I wanted more and was just starting to think about grabbing a condom when her husband stated saying “almost , just about, I am about there” and that sort of thing.

Both he and my wife would not have minded in the least if I and his wife decided to go farther… and she was very wanting of it at the moment, but I didn’t think it fair.
I like to stay on the same page usually if it is a first time with a new lifestyle couple.
I pushed myself towards orgasm and said I was there… The girl actually stopped for a moment with a “why?” type look in her eyes, but then figured it out.
She went back to it and it didn’t take to long to get back to that point.

We all hung out and chatted a bit before they headed home.
Even with Flow coming to visit we had a good time (though not what we had planned)
The next morning the girl showed up with scones and muffins and had pancakes for breakfast with us.
(her husband had to work)

A small side note:
She kept her glasses on the entire time.
Cute horn rimmed librarian style glasses.
It was very sexy.
I love it when a girl keeps her glasses on for oral.